Thursday, March 10, 2016
THE NEW YOU: PRACTICAL STEPS TO LOVING YOUR LIFE
AWAKE - AWARE - ALIVE: THE NEW YOU: PRACTICAL STEPS TO LOVING YOURSELF: One of my very favorite quotes "Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change," came from Wayne Dyer. He wa...
THE NEW YOU: PRACTICAL STEPS TO LOVING YOURSELF
One of my very favorite quotes "Change the way you look at things and
the things you look at change," came from Wayne Dyer. He was a beloved
teacher with great wisdom who helped us connect with our higher source
of power. May he RIP knowing his contributions were enormous to our ever
evolving journey.
Sometimes when we are in the middle of a crisis, challenge or painful process the only way out is how we are looking at our own stuff. We have to try to identify the source of the deep wound that is attached to the moment of confusion and suffering and work our way up from there. We either adopt a pattern from our parents or care-givers or rebel against it. Both ways are not necessarily positive because somewhere in the middle is where we want to be. We will continue to have arrested development and stunted growth if we choose not to face it.
So, here is an example: A young woman named Janice has been continuously and repeatedly made to feel small in her mother's presence. She is treated with disrespect, disregard and spoken to in a hurtful manner. She is rejected and left out of family gatherings; never praised for an accomplishment; a bother to be around; and judged. Janice is hurt by her Mother's rejection but using the tool of changing how she looks at things she digs deep to see the jewel and the gift of her Mother's behavior.
The jealousy started when Janice was born and her father favored her. The path then led to a lifelong resentment her Mother carried toward Janice.
Changing the way Janice looked at her situation allowed for no change in her Mother but change in Janice. Every opportunity she had to either boundary up psychically or go to the opposite and put her arms around her fragile, hurtful mother without taking on the resistant to love gave Janice her power back. She told her Mother she loved her when the negativity came toward her. Over time things felt better for Janice because she could see the wounded and angry Mother with arrested development emotionally and accepted things as they are. The change was in Janice.
Think of all the things that could be looked at differently and how you can grow yourself in response to hurtful emotions that arise when confronted with them. Almost every day we are given an opportunity to heal and empower ourselves with wisdom readily available.
Check out my revised book for more information on how to live a more fulfilling and joyful life:
http://www.amazon.com/New-You-Practical-Steps-Loving-ebook/dp/B01CRF2UNK/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1457639341&sr=8-1&keywords=a+new+you+sirah+vettese
Sometimes when we are in the middle of a crisis, challenge or painful process the only way out is how we are looking at our own stuff. We have to try to identify the source of the deep wound that is attached to the moment of confusion and suffering and work our way up from there. We either adopt a pattern from our parents or care-givers or rebel against it. Both ways are not necessarily positive because somewhere in the middle is where we want to be. We will continue to have arrested development and stunted growth if we choose not to face it.
So, here is an example: A young woman named Janice has been continuously and repeatedly made to feel small in her mother's presence. She is treated with disrespect, disregard and spoken to in a hurtful manner. She is rejected and left out of family gatherings; never praised for an accomplishment; a bother to be around; and judged. Janice is hurt by her Mother's rejection but using the tool of changing how she looks at things she digs deep to see the jewel and the gift of her Mother's behavior.
The jealousy started when Janice was born and her father favored her. The path then led to a lifelong resentment her Mother carried toward Janice.
Changing the way Janice looked at her situation allowed for no change in her Mother but change in Janice. Every opportunity she had to either boundary up psychically or go to the opposite and put her arms around her fragile, hurtful mother without taking on the resistant to love gave Janice her power back. She told her Mother she loved her when the negativity came toward her. Over time things felt better for Janice because she could see the wounded and angry Mother with arrested development emotionally and accepted things as they are. The change was in Janice.
Think of all the things that could be looked at differently and how you can grow yourself in response to hurtful emotions that arise when confronted with them. Almost every day we are given an opportunity to heal and empower ourselves with wisdom readily available.
Check out my revised book for more information on how to live a more fulfilling and joyful life:
http://www.amazon.com/New-You-Practical-Steps-Loving-ebook/dp/B01CRF2UNK/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1457639341&sr=8-1&keywords=a+new+you+sirah+vettese
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